Priscilla and Jerry Shirer

“I want my wife to be a Margaret Thatcher” he said, “I want her to fly”. This was after he narrated that his wife had to go for a month training overseas and his friends were surprised he let her go leaving her child training and housekeeping responsibilities.

Competition is a tool that can be used positively if you let it. If you see someone winning and you are encouraged to do better in life, then its good for both of you. But if you see a person’s progress – someone you claim to love, and it affects you to the point you wish them bad there is a problem, especially among partners.

You hear of couples who are threatened by each other’s ambition talk less of their eventual success. It could be furthering education, growing in business, opportunity to travel or money-making ventures. You dare not become an overnight success lest the other gets jealous and does everything in their power to truncate it. Why would you be jealous of your partner’s success? Unfortunately, women are greatly hit because of the abuse of submission and headship. So, I ask, why would a man be threatened by his wife’s success. Is it because she becomes disrespectful? Does she become vain? Does it get to her head? Please leave a comment below and help a sister.

If two people truly become one after marriage, then the success of one equal to the success of all right? It is no longer I against you but we against the world. Anyone that doesn’t wish you well doesn’t truly love you. Anyone that thinks your dreams are too big and feels they’re lost in your ambitions are not secure in themselves and in their place in your life. The foundation of trust is shaking. No matter how much you love a person you cannot make them feel secure with themselves unless they actually believe it.

If I’m unemployed and my best friend gets a good job, it will hit me in some way but it should not stop me from being happy for him and wish him well. This jealousy has affected and broken a lot of friendships. One then starts making assumptions over the person’s success; she’s feeling herself because she married a rich man, since he started working in oil and gas he stopped calling me or she studied in the UK so she thinks she’s fly.

We need to just stop. Stop thinking for people already because it will affect your sense of judgement. Stop getting ideas and stop living inside your head. Pray about this to receive a change of heart. If you are on the receiving end of this situation then you should start thinking about a change of friends or partners (if you’re not married). It is so beautiful to have people gunning for you. Protect your space. Tell a woman that when she wins, she wins for all of us. Someone said when God is doing good to your friends it means He is in the neighborhood. So instead of sulking over their success, pray He doesn’t pass you by.

Imagine my brother woke up and became Jeff Besos that’s a huge win for him and for me (best believe that😊). As you strive in your journey of success, encourage your loved ones to do the same and cheer them up when they do.

Thank you for reading. Please do not forget to share, like, follow and leave a comment below. You’re amazing


Thomas · June 8, 2020 at 7:17 am

Good one. Weldone!

Jemimah · June 2, 2020 at 7:04 am

I do think this is one of the things that should be looked into during relationship even before marriage

Olaide · June 1, 2020 at 9:32 pm

Woooow. Nice piece because I am sure this isn’t feminism. I believe the absence of God’s kind of love in one or both partners is a reason for this hence a faulty self esteem. However understanding is cogent.

And really I like the fact that God’s in my neighborhood.

    victoryadeyemi · June 1, 2020 at 9:40 pm

    Thank you so much for your comment. God is definitely in the neighborhood

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