And so I met a man. The odds were against our meeting but somehow it just happened. Musa was fine, smart and he said the right things. He had a sense of humor and we hit it off quite easily. His presence made me feel happy and even when I did not see him just knowing he was around was satisfactory enough.

Then being the spiritual girl that I am, I started connecting dots that did not even exist. How I said this and he said that, how he did this and I did that. Thinking about it now it’s so funny. All I knew is that I liked the brother for whatever reason.

I mean, I am the General Secretary of the ‘No Assumptions Campaign’ (this should legit be a real thing 😂) and see me assuming and building castles in my head. I am a strong advocate of allowing the brother to clearly spell out his intentions. If he really wants to be with you, speaking up would not be so hard.

So concerning my then situation, all I had to do was pray for him (not even about him) once. With only one prayer I just knew that this fine Musa was meant to be friend Musa.

There are approximately 7 billion people on Earth and I’m getting married to just one. Assuming the ratio of men to women was 50-50, what is going to happen to the other approximately 3.5 billion men. What  is going to happen to all the other good men I meet on a regular basis that I’m not meant to marry.

We sometimes make the mistake of meeting someone who is great and using that as a yardstick to get into a relationship. Have you ever met someone who ticked all your boxes but deep in your heart you just know that you are not meant to be together. And that’s ok.

I will need good men as business partners, as family members, as in-laws and in-loves. I mean won’t I need good men as friends? Won’t I need good men to get into relationships and eventually marry my sisters and friends?

He may be good and still not be the one

My dear do not date a man you were meant to be friends with.

Do not selfishly drag people into relationships they were not meant to be in.

Do not toy with a human being’s heart because of mere infatuation. As we are created in the image of God, we are purpose beings. God always has a purpose behind everything He does. He did not create grass because He was bored.

At this point I wonder how people live without having a relationship with God. Is this how one would jump from one unnecessary relationship to another? Is this how we would be confused.

God keeps me in perspective. It is not about what my heart says or what my head says but what the Lord says. He is the Ancient of days. He has been here longer than the rest of us. Hear him.

That is the advantage we have as believers, we have the Holy Spirit. He will teach us all truth. He will comfort our weary hearts and preserve us for the person made for us.

Musa and I turned out to be great friends.

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David Wisdom. · April 1, 2020 at 8:45 pm

Hmm this is more about my condition, well; thanks for the wisdom. God bless.

Samuel Ola · March 24, 2020 at 7:43 am

Wow! This is a whole lot of sense in one short writing. Things you do absolutely well. Thank you today for inspiring, and yes, for also teaching me. This is wisdom!

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