charming black woman with wide toothy smile

I am yet to meet a mature man who does not want a godly woman to raise their children. Many of my male friends and colleagues unanimously agree on this. I believe this is because women are natural nurturers. So, no matter how involved a man is in that child’s development, the woman will still greatly affect how the child turns out to be. This pushes them to want to date and eventually marry a godly woman but sometimes they forget the perks.

Before you go too far, do well to catch up the first part here: Perks to a Godly Man

I met a young man who told me that he loves his wife although she is ‘spiri koko’ and boring. I went on to ask him why he married her and he said -like they always say- that he wanted a good woman to raise his kids.

I strongly believe that you should be with your type. You see, he loves life, loves to go out and have a good time and she genuinely was not that type of person but he still pursued her because she was a good woman. (Shout out to all the good women out there)

Choosing a life partner should be something that you put a lot of thought into. Marriage is a very long and wholesome journey. All things being equal, you will be bound with this person for the rest of your life. Do not take the decision-making process lightly. By all means, be with someone who you trust to raise your children well but how about someone who enjoys your company? Or someone you can laugh with and generally have a good time.

There are so many things a man should put into consideration if he wants a godly woman:

She understands that her body is a temple

This means that she will not be half-naked on the streets and she would most likely want to withhold sex until marriage. I understand that men are moved by what they see, but she would not expose herself to satisfy your lust. So, when you find yourself someone who you think is beautiful but who you realize is godly, do not enforce your carnal ideologies on her. (This is why I say marry your type!! Just find your type and marry them)

Find your kind

Someone once asked me since I believe that sex should be saved for marriage, why would I subject my boyfriend (verbatim) to that belief. And to this I replied, it would not be me subjecting it to him if he equally shares that belief. Being on the same page in a relationship will save you headaches. I am not saying it is easy but at least you both know you are fighting a common enemy.

She would not be a Kathryn Kuhlman in a Nicki Minaj’ body

I hate to break it to you, but many of those celebrities you idolize have surgically enhanced bodies. Sadly!! You need to reduce your standards to a merely human level. Choose your fight my brother. If you want someone who is attractive and grounded in the faith then you can go with that. Or, if you want someone with a banging body (like I mentioned, above human level) to be your trophy girl and show off some skin then you are free to go with that too. You cannot have the best of both worlds and you definitely cannot eat your cake and have it.

Your type’s type

She would be given to study of the Word, prayer and fasting

What if you walk in on her crying in worship and speaking in tongues will you not freak out? A person builds stature in the spirit by prayer and study of God’s word. If you think this is boring or even a waste of one’s time then there are other women you would rather be with.

This is how she fights her battles, how she gets clarity and how she receives strength. She does not know it another way

She will not see you like her all in all

I have realized that men want to be adored and respected and I hope you find someone who is willing to worship the ground you walk on. But, there is only a degree to which a godly woman can go. God already has that place in her heart. But I can assure you you would closely take second place.

You will not complete her because she is completed in God. Her life will not end if you leave and her identity will not be found in you.

She will love and respect you whole heartedly

There is a balance between spirituality and maintaining a thriving relationship. People in relationships have a responsibility to each other and that is love and respect.

A woman who truly loves God will love every bit of you because she was first loved by God. She would stand by you and for you. She would respect you and be a proper representation of you. (Being haggard and unkept is not a fruit of the spirit Queens)

Thank you so much for reading. Please tell me your thoughts in the comment section below. Do not forget to subscribe too. Remember God loves you like crazy!!


I easily get lost in good music and a good book. Jesus is my everything and I am a firm believer that there is more to life than what meets the eye. Lets grow shall we?


Sam · June 16, 2021 at 12:33 am

Absolutely. You’ve said it all.

Debby Osa · June 15, 2021 at 11:55 am

Love this!

She loves and respects you, but God is her centre – and that colors everything about her and your relationship with her.

Well done! 🙂

    Victory · June 16, 2021 at 8:32 am

    I could not have said it better. Thank you so much for your comment

Mima · June 15, 2021 at 10:01 am

Thank you ma sister.

Eldavid · June 15, 2021 at 8:08 am

Menh Vicky you nailed it..was really blessed..We can’t get it all in one person.

    Victory · June 15, 2021 at 8:16 am

    David!!!! Thank you! Thank your so much for your comment

    Priscilla · June 16, 2021 at 12:08 am

    Well said ma’am!

Odama · June 15, 2021 at 7:53 am

Fighting your battles really got me. There are too many varieties out there. The desire to have it all is naturally inherent in us all. Many have gone in the spirit of solomon, looking for quality; only to end up with quantities and still unsatisfied.
Knowing you, your type and choosing only that battle is really a recipe for bliss and peace of mind.
Thanks for sharing!

    Victory · June 15, 2021 at 8:16 am

    Well this should just be part of the post since it’s so apt☺️. Thank you for your comment

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