Your love is sweeter than wineSongs of Solomon 4:10
‘I love you’ has to be the most abused phrase on the planet. Some say it because they want a favour from the other person or because that is what people usually say in relationships. I honestly think many people would refrain from using this phrase or even associating with it if they understood the gravity. Love is a commitment, it is not random or a pastime.
This reminds me of a book I read some years ago. It was about a man who was a perpetual cheat. His wife found out about his escapades and after confronting him, he promised he would never do it again. The marriage went on smoothly for a while until he went on a business trip and met this beautiful woman.
The woman – let us call her Lisa – caught his attention and the cycle started all over again. Lisa did not know he was married and when she found out, she was livid. Livid but unfortunately already in love. At the end of the so-called business trip, she told him she was aware of his marital status but was willing to stay with him as long as he promises to get a divorce.
The man vehemently told her he could never do that because he loves his wife. (This is the point where I start rolling my eyes).
She was heartbroken, she cried, even begged but his mind was made up. When he got home, he met the lights out and the house empty of all his wife’s belonging. She had found out about his latest charade and decided not to continue with the marriage.
I cannot remember the full story or details of this book but let me try and think of some excuses for him (I am still rolling my eyes). Maybe he was cursed or had a disease or some sort of addiction as I cannot reconcile loving someone and not being committed to that person. Is it just me or it is a woman thing? Let the men give us more insight in the comment section.
LOVE IS ‘I CHOOSE YOU TODAY AND I WILL CHOOSE YOU TOMORROW’
Remove all those excuses or biases in your mind and choose to fight for love. Love is a commitment and a choice. It is the choice to stay faithful in a monogamous relationship in body, mind and soul. If you feel like you cannot handle it any longer why not call off the relationship with some integrity?
Love is deeper than just a feeling because feelings come and go. If I give you a bunch of money you would feel very happy but no matter how much I give you, that feeling would end. So, no matter how much of a spec this person is you would not always feel the way you feel every day. But, love is a commitment to choose them every day regardless.
To love a person is deeper than liking them because you will like a person because of their good qualities but would love them despite those qualities. Hence, it is not blind. Please open your eyes wide and make the decision.
It is a choice to bring this person into your life’s journey. It is a choice to consider their feelings or desires when making big life decisions like in career or relocation. Choosing them would not only happen once in a while but it happens consistently.
LOVE IS CONSISTENT TODAY AND EVEN TOMORROW
Let me start this section by saying Happy Valentine’s Day!!! I pray that you get all the joy and love you deserve today but also tomorrow. Now that is true love. Anybody can send you flowers or a box of chocolates today but not everyone will care about your welfare on a day-to-day basis.
Unlike the man in the story I just summarised, love should stay consistent every day. It is a commitment that lasts even on business trips. Love is not a decision you make for five(5) working days and flip on weekends. It is consistent today and even tomorrow.
As a Christian, my definition of love is bigger than what the world defines. The bible says that God is love therefore love is the entirety of His character. If that is so, then it is safe to say that we can judge our actions to see if it is truly the God kind of love way.
How do you act? Do you insult or downgrade them? Are you generous? Are you patient and kind? As you learn to love the God-kind-of way, may you meet the one who meets you on that level.
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