Knowing your identity in God

Who am I? For the longest time this question would linger in my mind. I come from a big family, I am privileged to be from the most populous black nation and even the fact that I am just human makes it a bit crowded around here. So many people, so many different opinions, beliefs and ideologies, that I wondered if what I believed even mattered. I wondered if I even mattered.

Sadly, not knowing one’s identity brings with it a lot of baggage like depression or low self esteem. You would be surprised to realize that approximately 85% of people suffer from low self esteem. 85% my people is a large number. Many of the people you met today are probably suffering from low self esteem, either trying to live someone else’s life, or living their lives and are ashamed of it.

There was a time I would spend hours on the internet going through people’s profile and be thinking how good their lives were. I would check their pictures, read up wedding stories on BellaNaija, check out YouTube channels, all in a bid to get away from the life I was living which I did not think amounted to much. I was sadly part of that 85%. This was clearly an esteem issue. Factors causing this could include, background, social status, bank statements, wrong company among many others.

Strip away your background, your parents money (or yours, as the case maybe), take away that relationship and who are you left with? It is like trying to update your IG bio but this time you are not concerned about what people think. When there is no one in the sidelines cheering you up, when you are not seen by the world, when it is dark and you are alone, who are you?

My mentor gave me a book “Power of Vision” by Myles Monroe to read and it had so many questions about life at the moment and how you would want it to be. One of the questions was what do you want your eulogy to be? I do not want to die knowing that I lived a lie. I want to live in the authentic version of who God created me to be, so I re-evaluated my life.

This evaluation will take more than just yourself, you need to find people to give you truthful report. TD Jakes said that we can see people and the things around us but the only thing we cannot see is ourselves. You need a mirror for that, so find yourself some good mirrors to give you your true reflection. Sometimes, you may be perfect and adorable in your books but if everybody thinks otherwise there is a high chance that you are otherwise. Do not let everybody be a strong voice in your life. Choose them wisely and ask them to give their truthful opinions about you.

Surround yourself with people who see you properly

Sarah Jakes Roberts

When Isaac was about to give out blessings, he asked Jacob this very important question, who are you? Uncle Jacob answered ‘I am Esau, your firstborn’. Because this man could not come to terms to who he really was he kept on running for years. The sad thing is you will run and keep on running until you come to terms with who you are. Your situation will never change, you will never experience that shift until you come to terms with who you are right now.

Jacob’s lie got him the supposed firstborn’s blessing but it was not until he came to terms with who he was that he had peace and he was given an upgrade – a change of identity.

That is what Christ does to us, he changes our identity, but we must first come before Him and tell Him (not necessarily a priest or a pastor) who we are. For example, I am Bola and I am a pornography addict. I am broke, tired and I do not have a reason to live. I am constantly being misunderstood and I do not feel like I have my place in this world. (It is okay to be crying while having this beautiful exchange as the Holy Spirit begins to shed those layers off). There is a freeing power that overtakes you when you confess to the Most High the point you are at and the place you would rather be.

In a world full of so many opinions I have to remind myself who God says I am. He says I am loved, strong and I will chase a thousand. He says I will not fear what man will do unto me, He says I will not not cast my feet against a stone. He says I am fearfully and wonderfully made and I am molded in His image and according to His likeness. He says I am His temple and He is my righteousness.

I am not my past, my background nor the colour of my skin. I am not my mistakes, my shortcomings or my GPA. I am not my past relationships or my present relationship status, I am not my employment or social status and neither are you.

Now try it, who are you?

Now you know how God views you you need to train yourself to view yourself properly. When the spies were sent to view the land, 10 of them professed that they were like grasshoppers before giants (Numbers 13:31-33). Do not reduce God’s handiwork to grasshopper level, see yourself properly. Remember, you will be stuck with you for a long time so make you a nice place to live in.

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omolayo adeyemi · February 1, 2020 at 8:07 pm

Beautiful write up.

victoryadeyemi · January 30, 2020 at 8:12 pm

Thank you

Anonymous · January 28, 2020 at 1:57 am

Great piece keep it up.

Anonymous · January 27, 2020 at 11:53 pm

Great write up, keep it up dear

Herald shalom · January 27, 2020 at 8:38 pm

Amazing, great work!

Olaide · January 27, 2020 at 6:44 pm

Just got a better perspective. Thank you Vicky, God bless.

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