In my final year in school, we took a survey whereby we were asked whether we still believed in praying for the will of God in marriage. All final year and post graduate students agreed that it was. I mean every single one of us. I do not think it was because we all were spiritual but life teaches you lessons sometimes. With the rate of unhealthy marriages that we had probably grown up to see, we grew to believe we needed a higher power because choosing on our own may not work as such.
Personally, I grew up in a situation whereby hearing the phrase “will of God” will ultimately mean one thing – marriage, hence your will of God was someone you intend to marry. So from a very young age I was taught to pray about marriage and God will reveal the person to you and you will live happily ever after.
This was meant to make the process easier until people started changing their will of God on the regular. This was disturbing. I mean God is not an author of confusion, He did not tell 4 different men at the same time that they are to be with a single lady. It is either 3 of them are confused or all of them are.
I carried along with this mentality of how the changing of will made those brothers liars until people who I could vouch for said the same things. Now hold up, did God change His mind? Because God allegedly told them that this was the person they should marry, they got into the relationship and along the line they became convinced that this was not what God wanted for them. So what went wrong then?
The first thing I would want anyone to do in this situation is to figure out what exactly you heard from God. How is your relationship with God? Search how God speaks to you and ensure you are still in right standing with God.
Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves. Know ye not your own selves1 Corinthians 13:5 (KJV)
If truly you are doing well spiritually you will know. This is important so that you do not make a rash decision based on emotions or based on the flesh. Let us know because if truly God told you to get into a relationship with a person then He would have to be the one to tell you to get out because He has a purpose for it.
God speaks in various ways so figure out the primary way God speaks to you and do not put Him in a box. What I mean is do not limit God to just one method. Some people are so hung up on dreams that even the devil uses this to deceive them. Know that God can speak to you in anyway He pleases.
I believe that God can have reasons for asking you to get out. What if it is an abusive relationship? You do not need an angel to tell you, please run out. What if the person is no longer a christian, then you are in an unequally yoked situation, get out! What if the man/woman is an angry person? Remember what God said about angry people?
See the case of Abraham. At first God told him to sacrifice his only son which he was prepared to do until God stopped him and gave him a substitute ram for the sacrifice. All I am saying is do not jump into an instruction from God while leaving God behind. Many young believers make the mistake of hearing from God about the person then jumping into the relationship on their own and doing things how they think is best for them.
Even godly relationships take work so do not get out because of challenges. Sometimes we give up on God ordained relationships because we get tired or get carried away and that may not be the mind of God.
So you got tired and you decided to leave and follow someone else, your next relationship may still be beautiful and may lead to an amazing marriage but now we can never know the purpose God had in store for the two of you. Thinking that your life is tied to one person and if you miss that person you are doomed for life is not true. If you made a mistake by leaving, God can still turn that into a miracle. The constant in any case is God. I repeat, God is the constant.
Young believers also have the shame of calling off a relationship since they went about saying ‘God said’. The constant in this life like I said is God. So whether you said that God told you rain will fall tomorrow and it did not, you crawl back to Him asking why it did not rain or if you did not hear properly.
God NEVER lies so most times the problem is with us but that is ok,just crawl back to God. What is the use of being in a relationship that God truly told you to get out of, is it just to save face? Obedience to God should not be based on what people think. We should obey God rather than man in order to get His perfect will.
So do I believe in a will of God? Absolutely yes. I believe that there is someone out there custom made for me (and you too😊). Not in the sense that if I miss that person then I will be unhappy for the rest of my life or if I marry that person then my life is automatic bliss. I know that good things take work, I know that the promises of God still stands sure over my life irrespective, I know that the choice is mine to make but I also know that I would rather choose Gods choice.
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