Tolu and Joshua Mike-Bamiloye

Let us go back to the beginning. When God made Adam, He put him in charge of the garden and he was given the responsibility of naming all the animals. It was at this point that God – not Adam, realized that this man needs a helper.

When he was put to sleep, God took one of his ribs and used it to form his wife, Eve.

Please note that the brother was asleep. He had no idea whatsoever what God was doing and the bible has no record of him asking God for this.

After God made Eve she was brought before him and he recognized that this one is not dog or mouse or mosquito; she is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh. This one is wife.

This at last is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh…

Genesis 2:23 (ESV)

Like at last this one is made for me. When he looked at Eve there was a recognition. God did the background work by putting him to sleep and taking one of his ribs, but God did not have to introduce Eve to him or tell him where Eve was coming from. The same way God did not have to tell him that a lion was a lion and a bear was a bear. In her he recognized his kind.

Please catch my drift. At this point, he already could differentiate his left from his right. He already had good discernment. He was already in tune with God, so recognizing ‘the one’ was not so difficult for him.

This ‘one’ was formed and brought to him by God. It was not a product of his imagination. He did not even know how a woman should look like, so the only one who could have gotten him Eve was God.

Have you ever met someone and just connected? It does not even have to be on a romantic level. I mean you meet someone and feel like you have known them all your life?

Maybe you are having difficulty in your relationship because he/she may not just be your kind.

You meet someone who is clearly career driven then you want to make them stay-at-home wives. You know the man clearly wants to do ministry full time but you want to change him by all means. Why are we so bent on changing people? Please find your kind.

Ways of recognizing your kind:

1) Have a solid relationship with God – Before Eve came along it was just God and Adam in fellowship in the garden. Know God, sincerely. May I also use this opportunity to say that you do not love God in order to get a spouse. I pray you get to the point whereby you love God and not his gifts.

2) Walk in your purpose – Adam had a whole life going on for him. He was tending the garden and naming the animals. You are so lonely because you are not doing anything productive. He was already working so God knew he needed a helper. Eve was not Adam’s answer to cure loneliness, it was to help. Since you are not doing anything what help do you need? God knew it was time, please do not awaken love before it’s time.

3) Know you – Before dating up and down why don’t you try dating yourself. I mean get to understand who you are and what your values are before you give someone the difficult task of understanding you. In order to know your kind, know yourself.

4) Things happen naturally – At the end of the day these things happen naturally. You will not have to climb seven mountains and cross seven seas. You do not have to force it, just allow God write your love story.

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Joy · December 13, 2019 at 7:34 pm

Thanks a lot for this. I’m blessed.

Adaje victor · December 10, 2019 at 7:55 pm


Olaide · December 10, 2019 at 7:05 pm

Beautiful. Thank you for sharing, ma’am.

Catherine · December 10, 2019 at 2:12 am

“In her, he recognised his kind”

Nice write up!

Priscilla · December 9, 2019 at 8:55 pm

‘Allow God write your love story’
Nice one dear
Thank you

Anonymous · December 9, 2019 at 8:10 pm


Tola Adetoro · December 9, 2019 at 7:19 pm

Thank you and may God bless you Victory.

jesseshon · December 9, 2019 at 6:03 pm

My o my! Vicky this is awesome.

I feel blessed reading this.

Samuel Ola · December 9, 2019 at 5:29 pm


Debby · December 9, 2019 at 5:26 pm

Nice work Vickie… God bless you

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