Relationships are an essential part of a human being’s development as nobody was meant to do life alone. These relationships are initially thrown on us from childhood but as we grow older we get to choose the ones we want to keep and let go of. Today I wonder, where is hope when one is betrayed by a person they really love?

Who am I?

This was the story of Jacob and his twin Esau (and their mother Rebecca). Twins are usually closer than regular siblings as they come with a special bond from the womb so imagine being lied to and deceived by someone that close.

The summary is that when their father was about dying, he wanted to give blessings to the firstborn. Despite the fact that they were a set of twins and there was a struggle in the womb, Esau actually came out first before Jacob making him the firstborn right?

But Jacob was encouraged by his mother to deceive the father and got the blessing meant for firstborns. The mother had him wear his brother’s clothes and animal skin since Esau was a hairy man and Isaac – their father was blind and would not tell the difference anyway. I cannot even make this up it’s actually in the bible (Genesis 25 & 27)

People usually capitalize on the fact that Esau did not treasure his birthright enough and how he traded it for food during a moment of hunger. I get that, but let us try and walk in his shoes for a minute.

Did you really think he thought Jacob could do that to him? Siblings fight and argue all the time. Half the time they do not even mean what they say. There is some unspoken rule with siblings that they should love and forgive each other irrespective of what they do (Trust me, I have 4)

People may unfortunately hurt and betray you

An ideal world would be free from hurts and disappointments but unfortunately, the world we live in is not a utopia. The world is flawed and people are even more flawed. And flawed people will at some point or the other hurt you. Some willingly and some involuntarily.

You’ve done it, they’ve done it and we’ve all done it. People will hurt people. This knowledge should shield your poor heart.

Imagine Esau being betrayed by both his mom and his twin brother. His mother was even the mastermind. Can you imagine a woman causing a rift between her own children? If a mother can hurt her own son then who is a friend to you? Crazy things keep happening on this earth.

Even the Bible says offences will come. These things are bound to happen just ensure that they do not come from you and that you protect yourself against them.

People may betray you but there’s hope at the end of the tunnel

Esau went berserk when his brother took his blessing and would have killed him if he hung around. So, Jacob had to literally flee. This severed their brotherhood and they did not talk for about twenty years or so. I wonder if Jacob ever wondered if it was worth it.

Was it worth losing a brother over? Was it worth losing your family over? Was it worth living years away from your home town for?

Jacob got the blessing meant for the firstborn right? But Esau was equally still a blessed man. Despite the betrayal from Jacob, he was able to build an empire of a household of about 400 people. When they would finally meet, he had women, children and male and female servants.

In fact, Jacob brought flocks and herds to appease him in Genesis 33:8, 9 and Esau said ‘What is this for? Keep it, my brother, I got my own’ (Not in the exact same words but you know what I mean)

Esau made his mistakes and traded his birthright for a plate of food and Jacob betrayed him by taking his blessing, but he still was a blessed man. He still was a successful man. And the greater news here is they were able to mend their relationship.

Not all broken relationships are meant to be mended but if you have a flicker of hope then it is possible. It may take some time but it is possible.

My heart goes out to families who are broken over one disappointment or the other. I pray that God brings healing to your wounded hearts and in His infinite wisdom, work out ways to reunite the family.

You should also know that your mistakes are not the end of you. The people who left you, stole from you or belittled you will not be the end of you. There is of hope for you. Hang in there!!

Thank you so much for reading. Please comment, follow and share. And always remember, that God loves you like crazy.


I easily get lost in good music and a good book. Jesus is my everything and I am a firm believer that there is more to life than what meets the eye. Lets grow shall we?


Debby Osa · March 4, 2022 at 1:29 pm

The Holy Spirit, God Himself, separated Paul and Barnabas, yet they couldn’t stay together. Relationships, even divinely ordained ones, can be HARD WORK – continuously working, continuously forgiving, continuously CHOOSING to heal and let go.

Loved the write up, Sis. Well done.

    Victory · March 4, 2022 at 7:10 pm

    Yes!!! Christianity could equally mean that I love from afar. Thank you for your continued support dear

    Victory · March 11, 2022 at 8:00 am

    Thank you sis. Thank you

Professor Evans · February 28, 2022 at 8:26 pm

Beautiful write-up, brilliantly written!
Like you rightly wrote, betrayals, disagreements and conflicts will inevitably arise from the ones we love, but the most important thing is to forgive and make amends at the end. Endless malice, grudges and bitterness towards one another are never an option. We must always let love lead!

    Victory · February 28, 2022 at 8:50 pm

    You summarised it all so well. Love should always lead. Thank you so much for your comment

Haa Imoter · February 28, 2022 at 7:07 pm

Two days back, I got talking about Jacob and Esau with a friend. We arrived a conclusion where Jacob had to bow to Esau seven times, such honor wasn’t accorded to any man in history save Esau.

The reverence remained a hyper restoration of lost glory and the rejection of Jacob’s gift by Esau indicated an elimination of further mistake.

Today, through this pieces; I got a broader picture on consequence and cleansing in relationships. There’s hope at the end.

Thank you for your consistency Vicky. Our generation cannot be lost.

    Victory · February 28, 2022 at 8:52 pm

    I never saw it in that light. Wow! Thank you so much your comment and encouragement. This means a lot

Briel · February 28, 2022 at 6:42 pm

Undoubtedly, there’s hope at the end of the tunnel.

Excellent write-up, keep up the good work

    Victory · February 28, 2022 at 8:26 pm

    Yes there is. Thank you so much for your comment

Odama · February 28, 2022 at 5:26 pm

This is . Well done

    Victory · February 28, 2022 at 5:40 pm

    Thank you so much dear

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