Another day another struggle. Any regular day comes with a full itinerary. There are always things to do at work or school, people to call or meet up with, children to take care of and deadlines to meet. To continuously do things like this can lead one to a point of feeling overwhelmed.
Whenever you find yourself at such a point, ensure you note the following:
1) Blessings come with consequences
Can you remember how you prayed when you really needed a job? I know after a few years down the line you are beginning to feel stressed but just remember how desperate and broke you were then. Or when you prayed for that child or that relationship?
Whatever you desire will come with its pros and cons. The job and your family will take your time, fame may keep you estranged from the people you love and money may change your level (and your circle too).
Being overwhelmed may be a sign that you are in the the wrong place but most times it is a consequence of your blessing. If they are, be grateful for them. You would not be stressed without a child but you would not be happy either. You could lazy about at home all day but you would not have the sense of purpose you do now, so, firstly, be grateful.
2) God’s blessing will not break you
After confirming that what you have are blessings then let me assure you that the blessings of God will not break you. When Peter and the disciples went out fishing, they labored all day long and caught nothing. When Jesus came into the picture He told them to cast their nets again and they caught so many fishes their net almost broke. Almost, but it did not. This is because God’s blessing will not break you.
As long as you did not steal it, sleep your way or destroyed someone’s career to get it, just know that it cannot break you. Your load may seem heavy but it will not weigh you down.
3) Find a mentor
If you find yourself feeling grossly overwhelmed with a particular activity find someone who has done it before and ask for help. We need to normalize asking for help. You are not the first person trying to balance work and family. You are not the first having issues in relationship, marriage and definitely not the first to fight with failure in school.
Irrespective of what you are going through, out there is someone who has the wisdom to lighten your burden. You need to find them. The internet has made it so much easier to find helpful content. Do not suffer for your ignorance.
4) Delegate duties when you can
I can tell you for free that you cannot do things alone. You need a community and you need someone to support to lift your hands up.
Moses was cumbered with the load of leading the children of Israel and settling their disputes all day long. He was a exhausted yet he saw this as just consequence to his blessing. After talking to Jethro his father-in-law, he gave Moses advice on how he should delegate people to lead in smaller units. Genius. (You see why you need mentors!!)
When Moses’ father-in-law saw all that Moses was doing for the people, he asked, “What are you really accomplishing here? Why are you trying to do all this alone while everyone stands around you from morning till evening? Moses replied, “Because the people come to me to get a ruling from God.”Exodus 18:14,15 (NLT)
Moses – just like many of us, thought he was the only one that could get certain things done. Those are all deceptions. Whatever you can do today is either a gift or an art learnt. Hence, you can train others to do the particular thing or discover people with the particular gift.
The next thing Jethro told him was key to me.
“You’re going to wear yourself out and the people, too. This job is too heavy a burden for you to handle all by yourself.Exodus 18:18 (NLT)
Dear you reading this post, you have overburdened yourself with responsibilities not meant for only you. Your overwhelmed state is both bad for you, the people you love and those you are leading. Please stop it.
Jethro went ahead to advice he selects leaders over hundreds, fifty’s and even ten’s. They would handle the lesser cases and bring major ones to him. Please train and delegate duties to others when you can less you break down. This leads me to my next point.
5) Stay off social media
Social media is a market place and you would not go to a market to take a nap would you? Leave social media per time and enjoy real life. Airplane mode could save your life. Ensure that when you spend time with loved ones, you stay off your phone and make conscious effort to be present. The social media content will still be online when you return but family and friends do not last forever.
When you wake up, do not rush to check your newsfeed or email notifications. Take a minute or two to breath and set your mind for the day. This would help your mental health.
6) Find time to rest
I always remind myself that God worked for 6 days and rested on the 7th not because He needed it, but to show us a necessary pattern. Take time to rest. When you begin to feel overwhelmed it is a sign that you should take some time off.
You may not have the luxury of going for a vacation or taking a week off of work, but try to do some things that would unburden take your mind. You could watch a movie, read a book or call your favorite people.
Learn to unwind on a regular basis until it becomes a habit.
7) Feed your spirit
The reason you are overwhelmed could be you have depended on your flesh much too long and have disconnected from the source of your strength. God. You are a strong individual but you cannot do life on your own. Good thing there is a ready help for you in the person of God.
Read the word of God, pray, listen to messages from godly men of God and fast if you need to. Make little effort which will make up for the greater good.
From the ends of the earth will I cry unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than IPsalm 61:2 (KJV)
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